Minty Bears

/ Saturday, October 22, 2011 /
I can't sleep so instead I'm going to post outfits at 4 in the morning! Went to hang out with my friends tonight for what I thought was going to be a couple of hours which instead turned into around five. I'm happy though, since I'm usually a total recluse. I'm definitely using this year to get out of my shell a bit!

T-shirt: Delia's
Cardigan: Gap (Thrifted)
Skirt: Delia's
Shoes: N/A

Went for some mint touches today. There really is not enough mint in my wardrobe. Or lavender. I need to change both of these things and add more pastels! I forgot to take a close up today, but this shirt is one of my favorites now. You can't read it since the shirt is creased, but it says "Bear Thug" across the front, a play on 'bear hug.' I guess that's what it means when you cover a teddy bear in tattoos.

Also yes, it is a little past the time for completely bare legs, but my friends live just downstairs so I didn't have far to go. Is it cheating if I technically don't wear the outfit "out?" Hahah.

Creepers (not the shoes, sadly) and Costumes

/ Friday, October 21, 2011 /
It's been a little while since I've posted, hasn't it? My blog isn't even yet a month old and I'm off to a roaring start, aren't I? I could come up with a number of excuses but none of them really feel genuine, so I think I'll just skip them.

I have been feeling sick lately, though, so I don't have much to offer in the way of outfit snaps. Hopefully I'll be able to get back on that next week instead of regressing to my jeans-tshirt-sweatshirt ultimate frump combo. But it's so comfortable, I just couldn't help myself.

However, I did go out to some parties this past weekend! That's a bit of a change for me, since I'm really not the college partier type. The first party was definitely in my element though, since it was a geeky costume party thing. I was kind of dragged along by friends so I didn't have time to come up with a costume, so I wore something "geeky" instead, as much as I can do anyway since I don't own much geeky attire.

T-shirt: Threadless
Skirt: Target

I tried to add cute little buns on the top of my head (which was an extremely difficult task since this was my first time ever attempting it) and by the time this picture was taken halfway through the evening one of them had deflated.... ah well, it was alright for a first try.

It was geeky and kind of awkward but I had a fun time. My friend ended up winning the costume contest so that was exciting! The only damper on the evening was the girl taking pictures in the background as my friends and I came out of the party. I'm not sure what came over me, but I suddenly became very angry at her. I'll admit, I gave her the finger a few times! But that didn't deter her, and before I knew it I was marching over to confront her. I asked her why she felt the need to take pictures, and the only response she could come up with was that she was taking pictures of the building. After that I just walked off.

I really would have preferred that she had told the truth. That kind of answer is so ridiculous that I had no response. I usually try not to let this sort of thing bother me but sometimes I can't help it. It just feels creepy to have people sneakily take your picture so they can laugh at it later. It's creepy as hell, but we've become so used to having our pictures taken at any given moment and taking pictures of others that we've ceased to see anything wrong with it. I feel that it's different from the pictures I take of myself and put up here on the web of my own accord. One is a choice I make, and the other is something done without my consent or sometimes even knowledge. There's nothing wrong with it in the eyes of the law so I'm not going to make a huge fuss over it, but I can still find it creepy. My only comfort is that after my confrontation she put her phone camera away. I think I hit a note there and made her feel some embarrassment, which is a step. Simply ignoring things and going on your merry way can be a good policy, but I don't think there's anything wrong with confronting something you find wrong as long as it doesn't escalate the situation. In this case it ended the behavior, probably because she didn't expect to be confronted about it and it caught her off guard.

I also went to another party the day after. This one is the biggest party on campus and since I'm a senior and have never been, I decided to give it a shot. I am so very, very glad I only went once. It was a huge mass of people, full of more shoving and pushing than dancing, and I almost lost my friends a number of times. Plus there were the creepy guys who come out of nowhere... Needless to say, we did not stay very long. But I now have another stamp on my college experience card.

We were a bit too preoccupied with running around and being late for things to take pictures (case in point: We arrived at the party 5 minutes before they stopped handing out the wristbands for admittance) so I don't have any pictures for this party. Even if I did I'm not sure if I would want to post them. I just felt so out of my element the entire time. The dress I had chosen to wear was not something I normally wear. It had cut outs that exposed my back, the bodice dipped to show off my boobs, and the skirt was tight and rode up the entire night. I felt downright uncomfortable by the end of the night. I even kept a small cardigan on the entire time and I still felt strange. This dress felt like more of a costume to me than what I wore to the costume party.

Product image of the dress. (Source)

I think the dress is cute and I still really like it, but it doesn't feel like me, not yet. I'm not sure if it ever will. But I'm at the point in my life where I'm 'supposed' to be moving toward styles like this, 'supposed' being a big, open-ended term dripping in expectations of womanhood. But instead I just feel like a child trying to dress up and failing miserably. I don't feel like an adult in clothes like this and I certainly don't feel entirely comfortable. It's difficult. It's difficult to reconcile all these feelings, the feelings of needing to grow up and feeling unable, the feelings of not fitting into the narrow categories of acceptable presentation and being judged for it... It's all something that I'm going to have to come to terms with for myself because the outside world isn't going to change for just me. But that doesn't mean it isn't a difficult process.

Wow, this post turned out much longer than I intended! Well, it has been a while, so maybe this will make up a little bit for the time I've missed.

Etsy Fab 5

/ Tuesday, October 11, 2011 /
Because I like shopping etsy (and ebay) but I can't buy everything I find. So here are some of my most recent finds!

1. Vintage Calico Blouse - $14, 2. Vintage Mod Pleather Skirt - $20, 3. Lace Jacket - $12, 4. Black 80s Dress - $10, 5. Flower Print Heels Size 7 - $16.99

Also, apparently etsy is allowing you to display your real name now instead of your username. I'm glad it's just an option and not a requirement. It sounds like a good thing for shopkeepers, but as a consumer I'd rather not have my name attached to my account.

Heart Explosion

/ Monday, October 10, 2011 /
T-shirt: n/a
Skirt: Bodyline
Headband: Claires
Shoes: n/a

More awkward posing from me! I am trying my best to get more natural but it's difficult. My smile always looks strained. Maybe I should look up some tips on photographing yourself. Sigh.

Man, this shirt is so old! It's so old that I don't remember where I got it from at all, and the label is in Chinese I believe, although right below it it says "made in USA." Hah, talk about flipping things around!

I'm currently working on a post about 'childish' dressing, feminity, and feminism sparked by Eline's excellent post, Antifeminist Frills. It's become really long already and I'm still trying to sort out my ideas in a coherent manner, so I don't think I'll be posting it tonight, but in the spirit of my post I decided to wear something overtly childish in its themes and I think I definitely accomplished that, with the bright colors and the hearts. Even so, I don't feel "childish" in this. These kinds of clothes make me feel cute, but they don't suddenly turn me into a five year old. I was reading a blog the other day about the new Hello Kitty x Forever21 line coming out soon and so many of the comments scoffed at it as something only for children, and began to directly attack people who would choose to wear it. It's something I'm used to and you sort of just have to get over it and hold your head up, but it does get discouraging. And I don't get it anywhere near as much as, say, girls who dress in lolita do. I tried to dress in lolita once, but I couldn't take the pressure. Also it was too hot. But more on all of that in a later post!

To conclude this post, I have a friend who's auditioning for the Glee Project and he could really use your vote! Just click on the thumbs up button. Thanks! Also, clothing made from milk. You learn something new every day.

edit: I keep forgetting titles.

The Last Hurrah of Summer

/ Saturday, October 8, 2011 /
Today was a fairly uneventful day. I was woken by the sweet sounds of the fire alarm in my dorm when someone managed to set their hairdryer on fire. Alright, that's a bit of an exaggeration, but you would think that the burnt smell and the smoke would be a hint to turn it off. We were all pushed outside where I discovered it was actually warm out (75 degrees!) so when we came back inside I changed into this:

Blouse: Jessica's Gunnies (Gunne Sax)
Skirt: Luna Girl (High street store, Harajuku)
Flats: SM New York (Delia's)
Headband: Claires

Out of the dozens of photos I took, the one where I'm looking away from the camera had to be the best. I suffer from a major case of awkward posing syndrome. I'm really not used to taking full body shots of myself. Usually I just take close up pictures of my clothes for my tumblr, cutting off all recognizable parts of myself. It's like when I see my face or any part of my body visible outside of the clothes, I just find so many faults with it. That goes back to my old insecurities. Hopefully with time I'll get better.

A close up shot.

This blouse is one of my favorites. I'm a huge fan of Gunne Sax and when I discovered that the brand carried not just dresses but blouses as well I was sold. I'm not a fan of every blouse they make, but the ones I've sought out and purchased have been absolutely beautiful. Most vintage blouses I've seen favor a looser, boxier cut because you're supposed to tuck them in at the bottom, but I love the sleek silhouette of the Gunnies' blouses. This one in particular is one of my favorites, since the short sleeve or even no sleeve blouses are quite rare. I haven't seen another blouse like this one yet. I often like to pair it with this skirt; I think they go well together.

Some of my other Gunnies blouses that will likely make an appearance here. Click for larger.

Oh right, these things need titles. Titles off to a new blog!

/ Thursday, October 6, 2011 /
Sweater: Vintage, tag says Go Nitty by ATM (From Sweet Shop Vintage)
Skirt: Target

After putting things off for more than a month, I've finally decided to start up this blog. I still haven't fully finished it though, so please pardon the dust.

I've been wanting to create a personal style blog for a while, but just never quite seemed to get around to it. I'm also still battling with my self-confidence, so that's a large part of it as well. But with the encouragement of friends I've decided to start getting this going. Because if I don't do it today, then when will I?

I've been thinking a lot lately about today, but also tomorrow. I'm currently a senior in college, soon to graduate into a world that offers me little prospects or hope. Or, so I thought. But with the recent protests on wall street, I feel strangely relieved. I'm starting to feel like I'm not alone anymore or, to be more accurate, that I was never alone. When I named this blog a month ago I did so in the hopes that through blogging I would find other people like me, with similar style aesthetics. But now I'm hoping more to connect with other people, because it's through connections that we're strongest.

I don't know what the future holds for me right now. What I really want to do now is work towards opening my own vintage or thrift shop. I don't know whether or not that will become a reality, but for the moment that's what I wish to pursue and with the job market as it is I figure it's as good of a pursuit as any. But no matter what, I hope that my future will be filled with others. Because I am not the only one, and neither are you.



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